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Birdy
Age: 23    MIL Age: 50+

Must be something in THEIR water!

frequent fry her - birdy Frequent Fry Her TM - birdy, Posted: 26-DEC-06
My SIL has always taken it upon herself to try and run our lives, especially my DD.  There were a couple of times when she cut my DD's hair without telling me (quite unevenly, because she is not a professional).  She did this twice before, and I told her, "NO MORE!!"  Every year she has bought my DD an Xmas dress to match her two DS'S outfits, without my consent.  I thought that this year was going to be ok.  My DM bought a very nice dress for my DD and I had planned to put it on her for Xmas.  But, when I got home the other night from work, my SIL was there and already had her dressed in a different dress, getting ready to take her to get pictures done with Santa.  MY DH just shrugged and said that it was a way to save money, and that she's just trying to help.  I was pretty upset, because I knew that if I hadn't walked in right then, she would have taken my DD without me.  To make matters worse, I paid for pictures of my DD with her two DS's and Santa, but got no separate pictures of her.  She told me that there wasn't time, but then got separate pictures of her two children.  She once called me up and asked me what I was getting my DD for her birthday.  I stupidly told her what I was getting, but hadn't gotten it yet.  Let's just say that my DD got two of everything that year, and then looked at me and asked why I had gotten her something that her aunt had already gotten her.  I was so embarrassed!  I took everything back, and let her pick out new stuff, but I was still peeved.  When we lived close by, I would sometimes come home to find her gone at SIL's place planning to spend the night, but no one had even asked me.  Any time DD would stay there, she would come back smelling horrible, with a nasty cough and really bad habits (SIL goes thru 2 packs a day, they have two dogs that go everywhere in the house, and SIL 2 DS's are heathens).  Now she lives an hour away, and still tries to run our lives.  When BIL and DH were discussing Xmas gifts for me, BIL warned DH that if he gets me anything that looks expensive, like jewelry, not to bring it to the house or to tell anyone on his side!  Forget that!!  It's none of anybody's business what he gets me for Xmas!  I deserve the Tahj Mahal after putting up with the IL's crud for so long.

        Signed - SIL Needs To Worry About Her Own Backyard
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frequent fry her - birdy, 1 of 4 needed Frequent Fry Her TM - birdy, 1 of 4 needed/Posted: 8-DEC-06
Several hours ago I found out that my BIL was just committed.  What you need to know to understand a bit about my ILs is that under one big crazy roof, in a little three bedroom rented house, live my MIL, GMIL, BIL, SIL, her DH and their two heathen children.  These people can't pay their heating bill, but can somehow afford cartons of cigarettes.  So, you can imagine that it's quite eventful there from time to time.  Thankfully, they live an hour away from us.  My BIL called a while ago to speak with my DH, to tell us that he had just gotten into a fight with my SIL about her half of the rent.  She just took the two kids and left, but not before taking my MIL's, GMIL's, and BIL's share of the rent.  So, they were frantic.  They tried to call her, and she was obviously ignoring her phone.  They called the police.  When they arrived ( I think they have the address memorized by now, because they are over there so often), my BIL called back and was vowing not only to kill her, but himself, as well.  Mind you, he has at least two handguns and a rifle to back him up.  So, they took his guns, and then they took him to the hospital to be evaluated.  I personally think that the whole family needs to go, but I suppose that's just me.  But now MIL is on the phone crying about how DH needs to drive out there and somehow save the day once more.  The problem is that every time he tries to be the good guy and help, he ends up being the one in trouble.  It always gets turned around on him somehow, and then the police fill out a report on him.  So, I put my foot down and explained to him that they are grown ups, and they need to figure this out on their own.  There is nothing he can do for them at this point.  And besides, they are the type of family that can have a huge blowout one day, and all is forgotten the next.  So why bother?  I took the only car and went to my mother's.  I told DH to call me in case of a real emergency.  It's not that I don't think they need the help, I just think at this point we are the wrong people to help them.  Am I the one that's in the wrong?

        Signed - Watch For This Episode On "COPS"
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frequent fry her - birdy, 2 of 4 needed Frequent Fry Her TM - birdy, 2 of 4 needed/Posted: 9-DEC-06
Last year I had a big blowout with my SIL, whom these stories are mainly about.  My DH, DD, and I decided to pay a visit to the ILs.  We got there just in time for dinner.  We weren't specifically invited for dinner, just an open invitation to stop by.  Earlier that day we had stopped at this amazing restaurant where we picked up some authentic corned beef, cabbage, and potatoes.  We still had leftovers, so when we arrived, we sat down and ate that instead, as her food always has dog hair in it and it kind of grosses me out.  Well, I could tell right after I sat at the table that my SIL was in a MOOD.  She started growling about how I have nothing to prove by bringing the uppity food to her table.  I guess corned beef and cabbage is "uppity".  When I ignored her, she moved on to the fact that I had new shoes and she was sick of DH and I always doing what we wanted, and that we didn't care about anybody but ourselves.  Never mind that these shoes were already 3 months old, and the only reason I bought them was because my old ones had fallen apart.  Again, I ignored her because she was just trying to get a rise out of me.  She was looking for a fight, and I was not in the mood.  At this point I didn't know where DH was, and I was starting to get uncomfortable.  I tried to continue eating, but I was getting upset.  I nervously started picking at my food with my fingers.  Suddenly she jumped up and started SCREAMING at me to use a fork.  She started yelling at me about how I was teaching her 4 year old son bad habits (which is darn near impossible, because I'm pretty sure he has learned them all by now from everyone else), that I'm a pig, I need to start eating out of a trough, and that I'm fat and disgusting.  She continued to scream a lot of hurtful things and I was still doing my best to ignore her.  I stood up and started getting my DD ready to leave.  I had had enough!  When she started calling me a bad mother, I lost it!  My DD is very well behaved for a 4 year old, especially compared to SIL's two little ones.  BACKGROUND:  Her now 6 year old son was looking at this new toy that he had received for Xmas last year, when his mother took it from him to help him put it together (some sort of racetrack).  He stood up and very seriously looked at his own mother and said, "I could kill you, you know."  He was 5 at the time.  Her now 4 year old (the two boys are about 2 years apart) told a cop, after his mother was pulled over, to take a flying leap and called him a couple of names (some choice words that would make a sailor blush).  He was 2 at the time.  I fired back and reminded her of her children's behavior.  She was getting louder and more abusive, and when I tried to stand up for myself, she decided that I was "trespassing" and called the police on me!  So I walked out and she came running behind me, screaming insult after insult about my weight, my mother, and anything else she could think of.  I just ignored her and waited across the street for the police so that I could tell them my side.  My DH was very insistent that we wait, because one time after he had a fight with her he left to calm down and she called the police, claiming that he had beaten her!  So, we waited and I explained to the officer what happened.  He told me that she said that she never wants me on her property again.  But he also said that we are family, and at some point we should make up.  HA!  A few weeks later she called me wanting to know if I wanted to go shopping with her.  No apology or anything!  My DH said that this is how his family is - no apology and nobody ever says, "I love you."  But that is not how I was raised.  It's been almost a year now, and I still haven't been over there.  Best year of my life.

        Signed - Forgive And Forget?? No way!
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frequent fry her - birdy, 3 of 4 needed Frequent Fry Her TM - birdy, 3 of 4 needed/Posted: 13-DEC-06
About 5 years ago, right after my DH proposed, I found out that I was pregnant.  As soon as FSIL had found out, she started demanding a paternity test.  I never did anything to make anyone think that I was fooling around.  But, she even went as far as to say that she was going to take some strands of hair from a brush that I had left at her house and some hair from my DH while he was sleeping.  FDH was furious and told her to mind her own business.  He said that there was no need.  It was eventually dropped a few days later, but I stopped leaving things at her house.  Now my DD is 4, and there is no mistaking that she is his.

        Signed - Too Much CSI?
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frequent fry her - birdy, 4 of 4 needed Frequent Fry Her TM - birdy, 4 of 4 needed/Posted: 24-DEC-06
One night, DH and I were sitting around watching a movie when SIL called and asked if she could come over and use our stove.  Her electricity and gas had been shut off, and we only lived a couple of blocks away, so it was convenient for them (and, of course, silly DH ok'd this).  When SIL arrived, she brought her DH, her two heathen sons, and her own pasta to cook.  My DH went into the kitchen to say hello and to make us some popcorn.  A few minutes later I went into the kitchen to say hello and saw the popcorn sitting on the table, all ready to go.  I picked up the bag, and went back into the living room to finish watching the movie.  I had just sat down when SIL started demanding that her family put on their coats and leave immediately.  When I asked what happened, DH just shrugged his shoulders and gave me a "don't know, don't care".  Apparently, the popcorn sitting on the table was for her eldest DS for his dinner.  But how was I supposed to know?!  SIL called me up and told me that I ruined his dinner, I stole from him, I forced her to spend money on a happy meal that she's going to want back, etc., etc.  I tried to apologize and explain that I didn't realize it was his, that I thought my DH had made it for us, and I offered her the popcorn in my cabinet.  She gave me an explanation that basically said that my popcorn wasn't good enough.  I also explained that I thought that's what she brought the pasta over for, and she yelled at me about how her DS only wants popcorn right now, and then hung up on me.  Over the next hour or so she continued to harass me by calling and hanging up, knocking on my door, ringing my bell and trying to just barge in (I kept the door locked).  She even went as far as to tell me that she was calling the police and having me arrested because I stole from her as well as her DS.  I had borrowed her fax machine before, and she was going to use that in her claim.  So, I took it and put it outside my door when she told me that she was going to the police.  Finally DH had had enough, and the last time she called, he picked up and told her to grow up and quit her games, or she was never allowed near his family or home again.  She hung up, but was calling back a week later, trying to play nicey.  I suspect she needed to borrow money.  Good thing DH is kind of a miser in that dept.  It was a long time before I could eat popcorn again.

        Signed - Who Gives Their Kid Popcorn For Dinner Anyway?
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