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Mother-In-Law Stories
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Frequent
Fry HerTM
Angel Face
Age: 24 MIL
Age: 45
South Texas
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Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- Angel Face, 1 of 4 needed/Posted: 20-APR-02
About 4 months after DH and I got married, he got orders
(he's in the military) for temporary duty in Saudi Arabia. He
would be gone all summer (approximately 4 months). That, in
itself, was bothersome, but we had also made plans to have his sister
come stay with us for a while over the summer. SIL missed her
big brother and this was like her vacation. So, I decided that
she could come anyway, but that we needed to cut back on how long
she would be here. Originally, it was for 2 months. I
told DH to make it 2 weeks. Apparently, they adjusted the time
frame, but not enough. I did not know until after they bought
plane tickets that she was coming for 6 weeks. Believe me, that
is a LONG dang time to have a teenager, who you barely know, living
in your house! Then, MIL started calling me every other day
to give me instructions about how to care for SIL when she got there.
Now, when you were 15, did you need someone to remind you to brush
your teeth or take a shower? I didn't. Also, I was somehow
designated as the shoulder to cry on, and she would literally go on
for hours about how glad she was to be getting rid of SIL, how she
was just gonna strangle her every day, and how glad she was to unload
her on me, etc., etc. Ok, so I was starting to get annoyed and
nervous about this visit. I wanted a nice, relaxing summer,
and now MIL was sending me the teen from he!!? AAAgh!
So, she got here with $100 spending money - for 6 weeks!!!!!!
That wouldn't even pay for a visit to a souvenir shop and an amusement
park ticket, much less the movies, the miniature golf, etc., that
she wanted to do. Thankfully my family has a house on a lake,
so we went up there and swam and did water stuff (for FREE!).
Then, remember that she was here for 6 weeks, and MIL never called
her - SIL always called long distance, on my phone, to talk to the
ILs. And, SIL immediately pissed off my family and friends when
she got here - she was not mature (or smart) enough to know when to
keep her big mouth shut, and MIL was too stupid to realize that SIL
would repeat her words like a parrot!!! SIL immediately started telling
people, "My mother said you ----," and saying very rude
things to people. She told my sister (who was a teen mom), "My
mom says you are to have absolutely no influence on me while I am
here." Then, she hit my mother up for wedding pictures,
"My mother says that she hasn't gotten any wedding pictures yet,
and I am supposed to get them from you and take them home."
Remember, the whole "no contribution to the wedding thing"?
My mother was pissed!!!! She was just saying and doing rude
things. And, she had no clue about what was appropriate to talk
about. She was telling one of my cousins about her grandfather
who died of a heart attack while having sex with her grandmother.
Would you tell that to people you had just met???? And, this
girl was obviously not much of a thinker. You could tell that
she was just spouting what she heard at home. It REALLY pissed
me off. How DARE that woman say such things about me or my family????
I forgave SIL because of age and stupidity, but MIL got no such waiver.
By the time I got rid of SIL, I had hives from her 3 times, had nipped
several fights with my sister in the bud, and was ready to blow up
my MIL! Plus, the ILs did not (at that time) know that DH and
I smoked. I was gonna quit while SIL was here, but that plan
flew right out the window once she got here! J
So, once she went home, I got this irate call from my MIL, chewing
me out for not taking better care of her "baby" (remember,
before she was the devil's child?), and for exposing her to horrible
things like my family (the teenagers are all allowed to drink - supervised,
but underage), and smoking (my sister and I), and sex (don't know
where that one came from), etc., etc., etc. Then, she was gonna
lecture me on smoking - which I just cut off right there. Then,
she started chewing me out, because DH hasn't called her enough from
Saudi. Like that's my fault!!! He gets one call a week
for about 15 minutes. And, sorry, but he wants to call his wife,
not his mother. I was even telling him to call his mother, and
he refused! What else can I do? She wouldn't accept that
he has new priorities, and that I am now more important than she is!
Anyway, after that blow up, we did not speak until after DH got home.
Thank GOD!!!!
Signed - She Thinks She
Should Still Be #1!!!!
( I
want my own
Frequent Fry Her TM
Page )
RESPONSE: She Thinks She Should Still Be #1!!!!
Oh boy! I have a 16 year old niece who is also so annoying.
She goes on and on about herself. The world revolves around
her! She is so annoying. Her brother (14 years old) is
so bossy. Meanwhile, my MIL always favors those snobby brats!
Anyway, my husband is just starting to dislike them. Yahoooo!
Finally, he realized how rude and f-stupid his family could be.
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Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- Angel Face, 2 of 4 needed/Posted: 20-APR-02
OK, so the ILs showed up for the wedding, and we had
the rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner. All went pretty well.
Of course, my mom got extremely ill at rehearsal. It turned
out she had the flu, and they had to take her to the emergency room
instead of the rehearsal dinner. Now, MIL had never met my mom,
and so this wasn't the greatest first meeting. My mom was deathly
ill, and MIL deathly rude. So, I was supposed to be spending
the night at my mother's house, and DH, the IL's, and some of his
friends from out of town, were all at my house. So, MIL and
SIL were supposed to come, the morning of the wedding, to the hall
and help us decorate. I showed up, at the butt crack of dawn,
at my house (after going to bed at, like, 3 am, and sleeping for a
total of 3 hours, maybe) to pick up MIL and SIL. And, MIL had
just decided to not go, without informing me. SO, I had gotten
up extra early, and driven across town to get them, and they weren't
even going!!!! So, later in the day, when we got to the church,
and we're all (bridesmaids, mom, MIL, etc.) in the bridal room adding
finishing touches, I noticed that SIL (then 15) was not ready.
She didn't have her dress on, and her hair was not finished.
I was in a fog. I looked at my maid of honor, and she just shrugged.
I looked back, and MIL was standing in front of the mirror (refusing
to share) doing her hair. Now, my mom had ALWAYS made sure her
daughters were ready to go before she got ready, so I thought that
was really rude. Then, the photographer took me outside to do
some pictures, and so my maid of honor said (nicely) to MIL (who has
absolutely refused to speak to any of them), "We are so happy
for S and DIL - they are going to be so happy together!"
MIL replied, "Ha! I give it a year," and turned her
back on my maid of honor. Of course, I didn't hear about this
until later.
Signed - Made 2 Years So
Far, You B!tch!!!!
( I
want my own
Frequent Fry Her TM
Page )
RESPONSE: Made 2 Years So Far, You B!tch!!!!
Good for you. That's the best thing you could have done - waiting
all this time, and now rubbing it in her face!!
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Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- Angel Face, 3 of 4 needed/Posted: 20-APR-02
When my DH and I found out we were pregnant, we excitedly
called his parents to tell them the great news! His dad couldn't
wait to be a grandpa. Well, MIL didn't even stay on the phone
to hear the news. As soon as she spilled all her "news"
(church gossip, her part time job gossip, and her school gossip),
she said good-bye and hung up the phone. Then, we told FIL,
and he yelled at her to get back on the phone and hear our news -
she couldn't. She was too busy dust busting the front entryway!!!
Geez! Now, of course, she calls me periodically, on the pretense
of asking me how I am, and how my doctor's appointments have been
going. What she really wants to do is to lecture me on how I
should do everything - from eating - to delivery - to breastfeeding
"advice". She recently informed me that real women
(like her) have drug-free labor, and that if I do have drugs, it will
damage the baby, and I will be a bad mother <sigh> . Gimme
a break!!!! Plus, she goes on and on about how she breastfed
each of her 3 kids until they wanted to stop - the youngest until
he was 4!!! Now, everyone is different, but I, personally, am
not going to breastfeed that long!!!! She just drives me crazy,
and she has seriously brainwashed DH. I am having to constantly
change his mind on things, because he thinks we should do it that
way because MIL did <sigh> . I wish aliens would kidnap
this woman!!!! But, I swear they would toss her back 2.5 seconds
after they picked her up!!!
Signed - Even Aliens Wouldn't
Want Her!!!
( I
want my own
Frequent Fry Her TM
Page )
RESPONSE: Even Aliens Wouldn't Want Her!!!
Your MIL should not interfere. But, for your information, there
is nothing wrong with breastfeeding a baby till he is four!
Nursing reduces juvenile diabetes, childhood cancer, breast-cancer,
and a lot more. You should consider breast-feeding. You
will bond to your baby, and it is so healthy for baby (and the mommy).
RESPONSE: Even Aliens Wouldn't Want Her!!!
Tell MIL that you and your Dr. have it covered. You don't need
her advice while you're pregnant, because your Dr. is handling everything
just fine. That "might" shut her up. If you
have not picked a pediatrician, I am assuming you are planning to
interview them? I interviewed 3. I liked all 3, but then
I chose one because I just thought that Dr. was wonderful. I
brought a list of questions, asked them, and discussed my views with
the Dr., etc., etc. It was a great time for my DH to learn a
lot by just listening. And, it stopped MIL from convincing DH
to do it "her" way, since he was involved with the
pediatrician along with me. In fact, he had a couple concerns,
like how often the Dr. gives antibiotics. He asked his questions,
was satisfied with the Dr.'s answers, and he felt like he, I, and
the Pediatrician had it under control. DH just ignored Mommy
Dearest from that point on. You might try that.
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Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- Angel Face, 4 of 4 needed/Posted: 20-APR-02
OK, MIL is obsessive-compulsive!!!
And, a clean FREAK. And I mean a freak. Here's the story:
Last April, we went to visit the IL's on the west coast. We
were staying for 2 weeks (you never realize how long that is until
you are away from your home that long!!). We got there about
4 a.m., after driving straight through - about an 18 hour drive.
I was exhausted. The whole family woke up to welcome us, and
herded us into the kitchen, where MIL sat us down and proceeded to
cook breakfast! At 4 a.m.!!!! I was soooo tired, I couldn't
even see. So, I went to bed. Of course I couldn't sleep,
because MIL was vacuuming!!! Here's the deal: The ILs have a
tree in the front yard that was starting to bud. This tree shed
little white papery-looking shells (that the bud had been in until
they sprouted). Well, apparently DH and I (or rather ME, since
DH knew to wipe his feet thoroughly before going in the house) had
tracked these little white things into the house. MIL couldn't
wait till the real morning - she had to clean them up right then!
Of course, they remarked the next day that I was so rude and went
to bed when they haven't seen us in so long, and that I needed to
wipe my feet before coming into the house. Whatever. Also,
I learned quickly that there is a method to showering in their house
- it's a box shower. You take the extra floor mat and drape
it so that it catches all the water from the door of the shower.
Then, you shower. Then, you squeegee the door (both sides) before
getting out, and then you pick up the wet mat and hang it up on the
bar above the toilet to dry <sigh> . The next day was
warm, and the whole family decided that we should get in the hot tub.
Of course, the one thing I had not brought with us was a bathing suit.
So, I was talking to DH about how he should go to Wal-Mart and buy
me one. But, oh no, MIL has one I can borrow. Oh, God.
So, we went to her room, and she eyed me up and down. And, then
she said, "Hhmmmm. I hope I have something that will fit
you." (she mistakenly thinks she is 19 years old - not a forty-something
mother and soon to be grandma!). Then, she got all of her suits
out and started sorting them. She'd look at a suit, then look
at me and say, "Don't think so." She picked up a 2
piece, looked at me, and kind of giggled and threw it back in the
drawer. I was so pissed by that time that I finally just grabbed
a suit. Now, she is not some tiny little thing. She's
about 5'7" and she's slender, but in no way is she thin.
I am about 5'5" and athletic looking - not fat, but with muscle
and a bigger butt and thighs. So, of course, then she commented
on my body shape, etc., to DH while I was standing there. Now,
he, of course, loves my body. So, he defended me, but still!
And, of course, she "didn't mean it that way". She
was just making a harmless comment. Harmless, my a$$!!
Anyway, so the week went by. She annoyed me pretty much every
day just by being her - she would go into our room while I was showering
and "tidy up" (read: snoop), and she kept complaining
because we didn't unpack our suitcases and put every thing in drawers
and on hangers. She did not feed her family salt, processed
sugar, soda, or anything "harmful" like that. So,,
2 days into this, I was dying for a coke. SO, DH and I went
to the gas station and bought a 6 pack, and took it home and put it
in the fridge. I had to take it out, because it was offensive
to her. Ridiculous cr@p. Also, they do not eat white bread
- they only eat organic vegetables, and don't take acetaminophen or
any medicine. They take all natural medicines like St. John's
wort, etc. This is all fine, except I eat white bread and soda,
and I like salt on my food. But, I couldn't have that stuff,
because then BIL and SIL would want it too. And that was a no-no.
So, I was telling DH, one day, that I really wanted an ice cream.
I just had a craving. I like sweets, and am used to having something
sweet pretty much every day. So, DH was telling me that we don't
need to go to an ice cream shop, and we were debating it. Of
course, MIL butted in and asked what we were talking about.
I dropped it and said nothing. DH proceeded to tell her that
I am addicted to sugar, and that I was gonna blow up like a balloon
with all the sweets I eat. I was gonna kill him!!!! So,
then she started telling him that I have a thyroid disorder - that
is why I have to eat sweets all the time. And, she said that
I should start taking some vitamin every day, and then I wouldn't
want to eat sweets anymore. I was trying to explain that I just
like sweets, but she was on a roll. She took me into the kitchen,
gave me a vitamin, and stood there watching me until I swallowed it!!!!!!
AAAGH!!!!!!! And, of course, I was still smoking at this time.
I did not smoke at the ILs house, because I did not want to hear it.
Of course, at every opportunity MIL got, she started lecturing me
and DH. I finally learned to just get up and leave the room
when she started. Finally, a couple days before we left, the
ILs were going to take all of us to an amusement park for the day
to have fun. We all voted on where we wanted to go - Magic Mountain
or Disneyland. The majority vote was Magic Mountain, but MIL
decided that, since she doesn't ride roller coasters, we'd go to Disneyland.
AAGH!! It's her way, or no way. What a freak!!
Signed - What A Freak!!!
( I
want my own
Frequent Fry Her TM
Page )
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